Divorce Tips For Men – Avoid These Mistakes

Have you reached a point in your marriage where you and your partner have realized that things are never going to be the same and you now need to separate? If you are then you are going to find things very stressful at this time and will want things to be finalized as quickly as possible. If you are not careful and don’t listen to divorce advice for men provided by others then you could end up making the same mistakes that men in your position have made before.

In this article we look at some of the mistakes that men make when they file for divorce and which can be avoided.

Mistake 1 – Going For The Cheapest Lawyer Isn’t Always The Best

It is important that the lawyer you employ is someone who will not only spend time listening to what you have to say but also to answer any questions you may have. Ideally you need someone who has experience in this field of law. If you find one you like but are worried about the costs ask them if they can work for you on a flat fee basis. If they will do this then make sure that you know exactly what services they provide for this fee.

Mistake 2 – Don’t Ask Friends For Legal Advice

The problem with asking friends for legal advice when it comes to getting a divorce is that what they will tell you will be conflicting. Although the advice they give will be well meaning they won’t really understand the intricacies of this type of law and you could end up losing more than you wanted. So at all times make sure that you use the services of a qualified and experienced divorce lawyer if you aren’t sure on some legal aspect of your divorce.

Steve Murray
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8 thoughts on “Divorce Tips For Men – Avoid These Mistakes

    El Hombre de los Libros

    (May 8, 2010 - 9:54 am)

    What can I do to become a better listener?
    I posted a question here about an hour ago, possibly the people who answered didn’t understand the question. So here it goes again.

    My wife will tell me she needs me to do something. I DO listen and hear everything she tells me to do. I do the task she asked me to do, then she says "well why didn’t you do THIS?" I tell her that she didn’t ask me to do the extra thing. Then she accuses me of not listening. The other day she was mad at me from lunch till we went to bed over a small pork bone!

    In addition to all this, when I tell her that something needs to be done, she (at times) will ignore what I said. After I ask why she wasn’t able to do what I needed, she says that I didn’t tell her anything. When I try to press the point she says that I am lying and that she remembers everything.

    We both have very demanding professional lives and we have 2 kids. We love each other a lot, and adore our children. I have absolutely no desire to get a divorce, but what can I do when I know she didn’t tell me something yet she insists that she did?

    By the way I am well aware that I am not perfect and that people make mistakes in a conversation. I just want to know how I can become a better husband. I hate to argue, and want to avoid this at all costs. Just some friendly tips please.

    Thanks everyone

    blueeyed girl

    (May 8, 2010 - 2:56 pm)

    I would simply say…Honey I am sometimes forgetful is there anything else that I was suppose to do as well as ( and then mention the job you just completed )

    This makes things flow much smoother than arguing about it. You could even have her write it down for you so that it is clear to the both of you.

    Good Luck
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    Tino {16}

    (May 8, 2010 - 2:58 pm)

    I’m sorry, I wasn’t paying attention.

    What was your question again??

    For a "man of the books" you sure need a lot of help understanding rudimentary things like how to listen. Abre un libro diferente porque los que tienes no te estan ayudando.
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    *Blue8witch*

    (May 8, 2010 - 3:00 pm)

    It begins and ends in the BEDROOM hear me ?!
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    Jen

    (May 8, 2010 - 3:02 pm)

    Hello…Your problem, and thank God it’s just a tiny bump in your marriage, happens to many couples. It’s all about communication and doing it well. You just described what sometimes I expect from my husband, yet I wanted him to figure it out on his own. But the truth is, he can’t figure things that I want him to do, without me saying a word! This happens both ways and we’ve learned to be direct and say what we need to say, period.

    How to become a better husband? I think you are already just by trying to make the relationship better. It’s never enough, and we always need to keep making our relationship a better one, but here you are asking…

    Check out my site. I’ve got a very interesting section of “What Makes A Marriage.” It’s all free.
    http://www.adviceonlove.net
    Good luck!
    Yours truly,
    Jen
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    Element Say FU Yahoo II

    (May 8, 2010 - 3:04 pm)

    I told you, practice using the phrases, "yes dear", and "I understand". Women love it when they think you’re paying attention! Give it a try!
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    grrandram

    (May 8, 2010 - 3:06 pm)

    I would say that your problem isn’t from you not being a good listener. It’s from not being thorough. You say you listen and hear everything she tells you to do. But there’s that additional part of what she wanted to get done that you didn’t do. You seem to only do what she specifically asks of you. But there seems to be other things that may go along with what she asked that you aren’t doing. There might be things that you aren’t doing that other people would automatically do without being told. If you don’t know of the other things, you should tell her that she needs to tell you every thing she wants done. She shouldn’t assume that you are going to figure out all the additional tasks she wants done.

    On the other hand, when you ask something of her, and she doesn’t do it, then denies that you asked her. You should ask her once, then give her a reminder so that she can’t say you didn’t tell her anything. Or, when you ask her for something, in the same conversation, follow up with the request to make sure that she heard you.

    She should also have appreciation for what you did complete. She should praise first, then point out what you missed.
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    Bedford S

    (May 8, 2010 - 3:08 pm)

    Sometimes in life we only hear, what we want to hear. You are right communication destroys many marriages, When things are going good, why don’t the too of you set down and talk about better communication. Say Honey, I misunderstand alot what you mean and feel we need to listen each other more. It will take time but it will work.
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    happily married husband for 40 years.

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